There comes a time in your life, when you have to draw a line in the sand.
So, go find the nearest beach, grab a stick and start drawing!
No, seriously….I’m talking about that moment, when you realise you have grown as a person, and it’s time to embrace the next phase of your life, your business, your career etc…time to find the new and more improved version of you!
It takes real honesty and authenticity, to look yourself in the mirror and say “I’m ready to move on and meet my future.” Try it…
But how many times have you felt frustrated, because people have taken your kindness for weakness and think you have not clocked it from the start?!
How many more times has this continued, and you KNOW that you are the one who let that happen?
That is your fault.
Life is a wonderful lesson, that we sometimes do not wish to be taught. It can be so difficult to find yourself in a place where you must move forward, but have a fear of change, fear of leadership, a fear of being seen as ‘different’ to how you used to be.
But this is because, although you have been living worthy, you have also been living worthless – by this I mean, when others see how valuable you really are (not talking financial!), but you just don’t see it yourself!
You subconsciously employ a mindset of false modesty, for fear of seeming egotistical or arrogant.
There is nothing wrong with being modest. Modesty is a great quality. I also think that humility is one of most admirable traits, that any human being can have.
But if you fail to recognise your own value as the unique individual that you are (minus the negative ego or sense of entitlement), your humility becomes someone else’s currency to spend and they also get to set the exchange rate for it!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should not help others. Far from it.
I am passionate about help others to maximise their own potential and I believe that if everyone in the world helped someone else out, the world would be a much better place and I think life would be so much easier!
I just think there comes a time when you must focus your value in the right way, not the way that everyone expects you too, because it how they want it to be.
Having a laser beam-like focus in the right places, and on the right people, where you can create the most impact, will accelerate the level of value you can provide for them and for you.
It is even better when you connect with others, who share the same passion to combine your value with their own, to create something extraordinary!
But if the truth be told, as humans, we can be selfish beasts.
To be honest, people often don’t care about the tears you shared, the pain you experienced, the sacrifices that you make every day, the fears that you embrace, just to be you.
People often don’t care that you spend more time helping others, than you do helping yourself. People definitely don’t care, that you are still on your own journey, sitting in the classroom of life waiting for the big revelation, on why you were you born in the first place!
They just want to know that you can help them solve their problem, ideally, without having to take on the responsibility of doing so themselves.
That’s ok, providing you don’t lose out in the process.
So, how do you recognise your own value? Simple equation for me:
F + E + E + L = £
(The possible impact on the way in which you want to focus your own time i.e with family + strength of your experience based on what you have learned and can demonstrate to date + the effort they will put in based on the information you share + transparency on how they wish to leverage this interaction with you = the true cost of your value)
Note: you may have your own equation. I encourage you to use it.
So as I’m soon to pass the age of 35, I’m off to find my next beach, and this time, I have a much bigger stick.
Till the next time,
I am an award-winning Entrepreneur, Business Speaker and Social Innovation consultant.
My passions for funding new startups with our great team, helping corporates grow their business and support communities, and giving back to young people drive me every day and have done for over 15 years.
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